Dramatic Eyes by NYC

I received this eye shadow compact as a part of the Influenster Beauty Blogger Vox Box and the product is a great one, just not sure about the colors, a bit dark for me. I think that the lack of using dark colors often hinders my opinion of this product somewhat because I did receive a compliment from a friend and she asked where I found the colors.

I hoped that it was subtle, well as much as a dark color could be and it appeared to be just the right amount of color and shading but I was so nervous. But isn't that what these types of programs are for, to try something that you many not otherwise try. I did and I am glad I did. I just may have to find more reasons to wear smokey eyes!

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Pumpkin Cupcake Candle from Bath and Body Works

I received a Pumpkin Cupcake candle from Bath and Body works in my Influenster Beauty Blogger Voxbox so that I could try it out and let others know about the product and if I liked it. Well, I loved the fragrance of the candle. It smelled like I was baking a cupcake in my kitchen and throughout the house it smelled so good. I only burned about half of it as I wanted to save the rest for Thanksgiving time as it would be a wonderful smell to have getting ready to make the big dinner.

I used the coupon included in the box and bought Cinnamon and Cloves and I have to tell you that was even better for a daily scent. My soon to be 18 year old son even told me he loves the candle scent. In fact I went to blow it out when setting the table for dinner and he asked me why I did that because he loved it so much. Now that says a great deal about this fragrance.

You have to try these great fragrances in large, medium, and small sizes as they are all wonderful. I am sure you will find your favorite or favorites just as I did.

Taking care of the written word,
dannilyn

Influenster Beauty Bloggers VoxBox 2012

I received my Influenster Beauty Bloggers VoxBox 2012 today and I am so excited about the products I received to try and tell you about.


So here is what I received today:

Goody Simple Styles Spin Pin (2 in box)
Kiss Ever Pro Lashes Starter Kit
Not Your Mother's Kinky Moves Curl Defining Hair Cream
NYC (New York Color) Individual Eyes Dark Shadows
Vitabath Fragrance Mist Pomegranate and Blood Orange
E Boost Daily Booster, Orange flavor
Pumpkin Cupcake from Slatkin & Co (available at Bath and Body Works

and a coupon code to share with you online only F126566 for Fall Candles at Bath and Body Works

I will let you know what I think about these products as soon as I can. I love the fragrance of the candle and the Vitabath mist and can't wait to try the products out!

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Men, Falling Asleep, Snoring, Going to Bed and Why Women Get Upset

Okay, this may be one of the most asinine issues in my marriage but I have to admit that after 23 years, I am sick of this battle with my husband. My husband is 49 years old. I have known him for 23 years. For all the time that I have known him, he has fallen asleep while watching television and spends his time snoring, waking himself up, shaking his foot, and then repeating the same process over and over and over and 23 years worth of over and over.

Lately, he has begun adding another annoying habit to this sleep, snore, waking, and shaking foot, he bobs his head. He bobs his head as in it falls to the side, he straightens up, falls to the side, straightens up, falls to the side, straightens up and all while he is asleep. Then one great big head fall to the side and he wakes up, covertly checking to see if I noticed and then shakes his foot.

You see, shaking his foot is his tell that he knows he fell asleep and that I am going to be upset about it. And, frankly, I do get upset about the falling asleep. NOT THAT HE FELL ASLEEP, BUT THAT HE WON'T GO TO BED!!!!

My husband likes to believe that if we sit in a room together for 2-3-4 or however many hours watching television this is quality time. I COMPLETELY DISAGREE. It is not quality time. Quality time is communicating or doing something interactive, not watching the television or watching his head bob or trying to hear the television between his snores.

Now, besides being 49 years old (he is the one who thinks he is old), he works a lot of hours at his new job. He has had only about 8 days off since he began working in June of this year. I think 8 may be over stating the actual number but I can't really be sure, it may be closer to 5 or 6. NO LIE!! He also goes to work an hour to one and half hours before he needs too be at work and he works till 7-8pm most nights. One night he worked until 11:30 pm and got up bright and early and did it again.

So, with that said, I understand the man is tired. Got it! But here is the problem, if you are tired GO TO BED! We have a DVR, tape whatever television program you think you want to watch and GO TO BED.

I think it is easier to accept the sleeping if he goes to bed earlier than normal if he is tired than every time I am in the room watching television he falls asleep. It is not because I am watching my obsession RHONJ or some silly crime show, it is while watching a race or game or show he wants to watch.

So, he falls asleep, snores, bobs, wakes up, and shakes his foot every time I am there with him watching television. I have gotten up and walked out of the room many times because he is upset when I tell him to go to bed. I feel like his mother not his wife and he acts like a 2 year old not wanting to go to bed instead of my husband.

So, the reason for this blog post, a wife of a racer, who my husband follows on twitter posts a tweet about how many women are tired of the b/s that they receive from hubby who falls asleep while watching television claiming he was resting his eyes. She was upset about the control of the remote.

Not the exact same situation but the same underlying problem/issue. The husband falling asleep while watching television. So, my husband in his great wisdom (NOT REALLY) tells me about the tweet and believes I will find it hilarious. I don't. It is another wife who has a husband who does not think enough about anyone other than himself to go to bed instead of falling asleep while watching television. Now, here is where the real important point comes in to play.

The wife who may work outside the home, inside the home, or both is sitting with her husband and possibly her children and thinks this is a great time to spend time together interacting. The husband thinks this is a great time to watch television and take a nap. But because they are men, they don't nap. However, every time they sit down to watch television they nap. They fail to see the connection. Television=Nap.

Okay, so there are very few men who sleep in awkward positions they place themselves in while watching television that does not cause snoring to occur. Women see and hear this connection, men do not. They fail to see the connection. Awkward sleeping position while watching television = nap with snoring.

We are talking about the quality of women's lives here. Think about it in this way.

Woman marries Man
Man watches television without talking to woman
Man falls asleep and snores and/or head bobs in front of woman
Woman can leave the room or wake the man up
Woman leaves the room and is not able to spend quality time with man  OR
Woman wakes man up so the man can get mad at woman for waking him up when he is simply resting his eyes

The quality of life is horrible for women. In order to spend time with their man she has to sit and watch television with him and watch him sleep and hear him snore. She does something about it and she is the bad person.

All you want to ask is why don't you go to bed if you are tired. It is far less of an insult to the woman to say I am beat, I am going to bed. When a man tells them they want to spend time with them but watches television and falls asleep, really was the woman really required for him to relax and fall asleep.

Sunday night my husband read that tweet that I was suppose to find hilarious (his words) and then fell asleep while watching the show he wanted to watch and snored to high heaven. I woke him up (hey it was almost time for RHONJ) and told him to go to bed. HE GOT MAD AT ME! WHY??????? Because that tweet was his justification for snoring and falling asleep while watching television while I was in the room. OTHER MEN DO IT!!!!!!!

OMG!!!!!! Is he really 10 years old?????? Everyone else does it mom, so why can't I!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, needless to say, he doesn't not understand three days later why I am so mad. Someone tweets that she is upset with her husbands sleeping/television issues and the only thing he sees is that other men do it and that gives him the go ahead to act like a 2 year old who doesn't want to go to bed.

He fails to see that just because 'everyone else' is doing something that annoys people does not mean that the behavior is acceptable.

He has a television in the bedroom he could watch until he fell asleep. OR he could just go to bed and get better sleep without the lights and sounds affecting his sleep cycle.

He could be a grown up and go to bed without annoying others for 10-45 minutes of snoring and head bobbing.

He could attempt the act of staying awake and communicate with me for a fraction of the time he spends getting ready to nap, I mean watch television.

So, he doesn't see how thinking the tweeter was hilarious and me a witch and getting mad at me, hurt, three days later and he still doesn't get it.

I watch less than 4 hours of television a week. Those shows are all recorded so I can watch them at another time. Each week I try to spend a few hours watching a race with him for that 'quality time' he believes it is. By the way, I hate racing and watching races and listening to the stupid commentary, especially that one that yells everything he says into the microphone Wallace something I think. The best part of watching the race is Jimmie Johnson. But I am loss as what to do to get my husband, 49 years old to be a man and go to bed when he is tired at 9pm, 10pm, or later instead of staying up to 'be with me' and annoy me to death.

So, that's it, just trying to get the point across that women do not like to spend time with their husband, watching television, watching their head bob and hearing their snores and here incredibly stupid excuses instead of just going to bed! If you really want to spend quality time with us......this isn't it.

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Clear Scalp and Hair Therapy Clearly has Packaging Issues

I was given a sample of Clear Scalp and Hair Therapy shampoo and conditioner in full size bottles to try for free from She Speaks. I had tried the tiny one or two use bottles but this was the first time using the full size retail bottles of the product. Here is the problem, I love the shampoo and conditioner SO MUCH as it is wonderful for my hair but the shampoo bottle leaks.

It leaks from the top of the bottle and the seam between the top and the rest of the bottle. Quite a bit of shampoo leaks out each and every day that I bet if I had collected the leakage and tracked it, it would have been about 1/4 to 1/3 of the entire contents. Each day I have a mess in my shower on the shelf it sits on, down the sides of the bottle and it makes it slippery to grab and use. I spend more time cleaning the outside of the bottle than it takes to shampoo my hair.

I really love this shampoo. I don't think I can tell you how much I LOVE WHAT THIS SHAMPOO DOES FOR MY HAIR, but I cannot and will not purchase this shampoo again. OR at least until they fix the design flaw of this bottle. I am not willing to purchase a product that leaks out of the bottle (it doesn't matter if it is a new/full bottle or one where it is 80-90% empty it still leaks out).

This is a great product, but not worth the cost if you lose a good portion of it when it waits for your next shower. If you fix this problem, let me know, I would love to use it again.

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Real Crazy Real Housewives of New Jersey

I have to admit to my obsession with the Real Housewives of New Jersey. Thankfully, there is only one more episode for the fourth season, part 3 of the reunion. This season has been out of control in how certain characters on the show have acted and the behavior is only getting worse in the reunion episodes. I really have strong concerns about the mental health of Teresa Guidice and those fans of hers that will blindly accept any thing she does as worthy of praise. I have said it before and I will say it again, the lady has real mental health issues that will not go away once the cameras stop filming as the problems are still present. Her problems are simply highlighted by the filming  but from different accounts have been there for years.

I can empathize with the other women on the show who have had enough of the lies, betrayal, anger, revenge, and other immature behavior from Teresa. Living with or dealing with a person with mental health issues is exhausting. These women have tried to ignore, address, and express concern about her behaviors and the only thing that appears left to try is screaming at her endlessly. It is a rather fruitless effort as Teresa needs to crash or receive help. It appears Teresa is headed for that crash and I do not think Bravo will be there to help her out of the crash.

It really is sad when someone is not aware of their mental health issues and they think what they are doing is acceptable, normal, or justifiable. Only those on the outside looking in can see just how ridiculous that belief is. The person involved in the horrific behavior cannot see just how strange, abnormal, and dangerous their behavior is, not to the person or persons it is directed too, but to their own lives and loved ones. I have experienced this first hand this past year and as it escalated in severity I listed to the fight or flight battle in my brain and decided to take flight and move from the situation. I live surrounded by neighbors that are 'normal' and do not act upon every crazy notion that enters their minds.

I really believe that is why the RHONJ series has been watched by so many who are disgusted at what they are seeing but are unable to turn the channel or stop thinking about what they just witnessed. A part of us (society) wants to see just how bad the 'crazy' will get before the person gets help. It is as if there is an accident on the side of the road and as much as we tell ourselves we will not look, we just can't help it. I know that I want to see what the 'event' is that causes Teresa to seek some help for her issues. I personally do not like Teresa but I do so hope that she receives the help she desperately needs.

I also hope that her 'fans' who have decided to be team Teresa or Team Trash Everyone else takes a close look at how they call the other ladies names, demean them, and attack every thing they do as if they are the worst person in the world. I have to wonder about how their family and friends stack up and are treated by these 'fans' who would treat strangers this way.

I guess the real crazy is all of us who have not demanded society to take a look at the mental health problems and what we are doing or not doing to address these very important issues.

Now that is something to consider.

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Crazy Life

Well, things have been pretty crazy around our house this summer and fall. We  moved the first week of June back to town and well we really enjoyed getting out of Gerton. It was simply too far from everything. We save nearly $400 a month in gas for our vehicle. We are saving so much money on gas we have been able to purchase a new car. We had to buy one in March, on my birthday actually and now we have a second car, new to us, a 2009. It is nice to look out at our driveway and see two nice vehicles that are not subjected to rough mountain driving of 30 minutes twice a day. We think they will last quite a bit longer than the van and SUV that died from the mountain driving stress within less than a year of living in Gerton. It is a beautiful area, but horrible on vehicles.

The house was moldy and damp and since moving from there, I have been able to cut out quite a bit of my allergy medicine. Amazing what a mold free home can do for one's overall health and wallet.

My husband had a job interview the day before we packed up our belongings on a moving truck and the day we were unloading things in our new house he received a call back for a second interview. He quickly showered and headed over for the interview while my son unloaded the truck and I continued unpacking the boxes. My husband arrived home and received a second call later that day offering him the job. Good thing too, the company he had been with since we moved here nearly 9 years ago was closing up shop with the exception of maybe one or two days a month.

If you read the blog in late June/early July you will see some mention of the harassment from our former neighbors. That took up some time to deal with, but as you will see,  while they believed they were having fun spewing hate to me and my family via the internet (twitter and my blog mainly) they were breaking the law. I found out what legal steps I can take to stop this type of treatment and gave them one last warning to stop it or pay the consequences for their actions and well, I am pleased to say they have stopped. I guess they decided to attempt to make our lives a living nightmare because we did not like them. I have to say my gut instinct told me they were bad news and it appears I was right. Who does that type of stuff to someone just because their neighbor does not like them enough to be 'friends'? I say, grow up and leave me alone!

Senior pictures time came and while I did not get my son to take as many pictures as I wanted, the ones he took are simply wonderful. They really captured the many sides of my son.

School started back up and my baby is a senior in high school. He is the senior class president, an officer in FCA, and involved in a number of school activities, a member of the National Honor Society, and is 7th or 9th in his class. So, can you say 'proud mom'? I am so proud of the wonderful young many he is.

Our oldest son is in his third year of college, purchased a car completely on his own, and working for Americans for Prosperity. He is meeting some great politicians and enjoying the opportunities he has been given. He is another young man with a lot of potential and I am very proud of him!

Our youngest son has sent in some college applications this weekend. I am excited for him and I hope he gets in to NC State as that is the school he wants to attend the most. Yes, mom is sad that it is so far away from home and makes a day trip to see him difficult. However, it may turn into a weekend trip one day in Charlotte and the next in Raleigh to see both boys. However, our oldest has intentions of attending NC State for his master's degree  and well, that will make road trips to see the boys easier on mom and dad.

I have been selected for quite a few try and tells from several companies, bzzagent, shespeaks, vocalpoint, inflenster, and more over the summer and fall. I am excited about the opportunities to try some great new products and I am attempting to regularly update the blog on these products. I have to admit that my freelance writing projects have taken off this last year and I have been so very busy doing them. Since they bring in money for the family, I give them priority but, I still love to be involved in try and tells on products.

I am beginning a weight loss trial program later this month. I am planning on updating the progress I make on this blog. It will be a year commitment to the weight loss program and I expect to see some remarkable results. This is a doctor, dietitian, and nurse monitored program. There is a chance for a 'device' to assist in the weight loss but I won't know if I have the 'device' or not until well into the program. I will not divulge what the 'device' is but there is no surgery involved. The program focuses on diet and exercise in addition to the device if you are chosen for the device. It sounds complicated and mysterious, but there is a reason for the vagueness of the details. The emphasis is if a person can lose more weight following diet, exercise, and portion control or if the device provides more weight loss. Anyways, I will be updating the blog about this process and hopefully I will see some amazing results.

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn 

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Real Housewives of New Jersey, an example for us all

Last night was a must anticipated episode of the RHONJ. I read the tweets live as they were happening, read recaps and comments and I have come to this startling conclusion. We identify with the cast of RHONJ for a number of reasons. Some good, some bad, but we identify with the characters demonstrated and respond according to our own experiences.

Now, I will come right out and say from the very first episode I have had a problem with Teresa. I can honestly say, that while Teresa's behavior is an extreme, I have had friends and family members similar to Teresa and I cannot tolerate her behavior.

So, the main highlight of this episode that everyone seemed to be waiting for is, Joe Guidice speaking on a phone to what is assumed to be his girlfriend (he is married to Teresa), calls his wife a few words women do not appreciate being called starting with a B and a C. We then see Teresa rushing over to Joe to demand to know who he is talking to and he lies and starts speaking in Italian. She is desperate to... I don't know, maybe to pretend everything in the marriage is still okay and tries to get her husband to have sex with her in front of everyone else on the trip, in the vineyard and he says he doesn't want to. Oh, yes, this is with full mic and camera watching.

To say Teresa is desperate is an understatement. She is past desperate, she has moved on to delusional, narcissistic, passive/aggressive, aggressive, manipulative, resorts to lying, holds grudges, brings up past issues to reinstate angry feelings, and has a weird 'attraction' to her brother. Yes, I must also add her parenting skills are extremely poor, her relationship with her husband is at minimum verbally abusive, she cannot have a real relationship with anyone without her being the center of the relationship at all times and that unfortunately upsets the abilities of others to actually tolerate her for any length of time.

That is not to say that Melissa, Kathy, Jacqueline, Carolina, Albie, Christopher, Chris, Al, Joe Gorga, Joe Guidice, Ashlee, Lauren, and Greg don't all have their own issues and oddities. However, Teresa is the one that demands the spotlight on her at all times.

Now, Melissa, whether her "thank you Jesus" are serious or not, at least she makes reference that there is someone higher in the world than she is and after the Teresa show, it is nice to see. I don't care if she can actually sing, has 'fake' breasts, or is secretly trying to bring Teresa down, Melissa has demonstrated in numerous conversation attempts with Teresa to educate Teresa that she may in fact contribute to the problems she has with everyone.   Now, Melissa is telling Teresa the same things that Jacqueline told Teresa and Caroline told Teresa and Kathy told Teresa. She is telling her them in a more direct but 'nice' approach. I like that. You can understand the message Melissa is giving Teresa even if Teresa cannot.

Now, Jacqueline is that type of person that wants to like everyone and wants to give everyone a chance. Look at the abuse she received from her daughter. Yes, Ashlee treated her mother like crap and while many believe that Jacqueline is a horrible mother, at 18 Ashlee should have been in college or on her own. If she could not treat her mother and step father with respect, then she would have been told to leave immediately. Where she ended up was up to her. So, I don't know how many parents would give Ashlee so many chances to straighten up, but if you think you are old enough to tell your mother off, you are old enough to be a big girl on your own. Jacqueline has shown us the same issues with saying goodbye to Teresa. Yes, we are tired of seeing her cry all the time, but come on even if your child (21) deserves to be given a swift kick in the butt on the way out due to the lack of respect, it is hard to say goodbye and to suddenly stop worrying about her child. She also has guilt about what she may or may not have done over 21 years that caused Ashlee to think she can treat her mother like this and get away with that behavior but I am sure she is a mother who is in great pain that the relationship she wanted with her daughter is not what she has. OH MY GAWD, that is the same thing that Jacqueline said to Teresa, this is not the relationship I wanted, I want you to tell me what is going on instead of me having to find out in tabloids. Folks, what she is saying is, if I am your best friend, why can't you tell me how you feel about rumors (or truth) that I read. A real friendship and not a manipulated friendship. The episode where Teresa takes Jacqueline into the RV for apple pie is demonstration of this 'fake' relationship. Jacqueline is visibly upset and all Teresa cares about is herself.

Caroline is not my favorite person on the show either. I do like her more than Teresa but I also have to respect her dowdy, angry, menopausal way of looking at life. Come on, her daughter is acting up on the trip, going on yet again about all the weight, her brothers not loving her enough (Teresa and Lauren have really weird relationships and expectations of relationships with their brothers), and other issues facing her and acts like a two year old. While I may not call my children what Caroline called Lauren, I would call them out for their ugly behavior. I mean seriously, grow up. Caroline is the type of person who can look at a situation and call it pretty accurately even if we do not like the manner in which she does. I agreed with Caroline's opinion about Ashlee, Lauren, and Teresa. I would like to think that I would begin using more tact, but seriously, the crud has gotten ridiculous and obviously tact doesn't cut through these people.

Kathy is nice, but her eyes bug out too much for me sometimes. However, I find her to be prettier than Teresa by far. So, when Melissa spoke about how beautiful they both looked, I thought, that is nice because you look at them that night and think, yes, they do look as nice as they can, and that is good, let them feel good knowing that, good job Melissa. However, it appears Melissa upset Teresa because someone else looks as good or better than Teresa. I don't know if I could have remained quiet after the toast Teresa gave. It was mean. It was passive/aggressive towards Kathy. I mean, Teresa had just complained again about the recipes in the cookbook and proving that she does hold grudges, by bringing it up AGAIN. I honestly feel that Kathy did not say that those are her mother's cookies in a mean or spiteful or passive/aggressive manner. I mean come on, Teresa do you actually believe everyone is out to get you all the time. Well, maybe they are because you instigate a lot of trouble between EVERYONE!!!!

Joe Gorga, Joe Guidice, and Richie Wakilie, enough with the displaying your genitalia. Enough of the talking about your genitalia. None of you are attractive and/or hot. Seriously, do you really think every woman is going to be thrilled to hear once again about your genitalia, sex life, and all that other crud you spew every week. NO! And Albie and Christopher, seriously stop encouraging them from making fools of themselves. They obviously do not have the social skills, self-control, or any other ability to monitor their own behaviors. They do not need the encouragement to act as if they are from the wilds (Sorry to anyone who lives in the wilds and have better social skills, self-control and any other ability to monitor their own behaviors). Out of sheer respect to others (the owners of the vine-yards) stop already. This brings me to Chris.

Chris, you are a sweet man. You show great self-control and often are the 'babysitter' of the idiots you are around. I mean, Christopher getting so sick before the food show after being told to take it easy, Joe and Joe playing with the sculpture in the cave room, and not being able to shut up before stupidity runs out of their mouth with no filters, you are a great man. But, your wife needs you to assert some back bone once and a while when things go out of control. You backed down too often with Ashlee. Yes, you are just the step dad, but you needed to do it for Jacqueline must sooner. But kudos for going on camera and telling the world Jacqueline has a beautiful body. While we do not see it as much as we see Teresa's body in various stages of undress and disgust, Jacqueline shows the public that beautiful women are not always perfect women. Let us not even begin to discuss how not perfect Teresa's body and face are. I find her repulsive.

Okay, so it looks like I am talking directly to Chris while talking about the others, I am going to leave it because I really think he is the only one besides Melissa that would be able to hear and understand the truth.

But the subject of this post is how RHONJ is an example for us. And here it is, we can learn how to identify the same characteristics in the people around us and determine how we will react to them. We can see who we have had problems with and the best approach to resolving the conflicts if both parties desire to resolve the conflicts. If you encounter a person like Teresa, run, run away as fast as you can, because as you can see, if she remains unstopped the problem escalates. Much like a bad smell in the house that remains no matter how many times you try to cover up (make excuses) it will not disappear. You actually have to take care of removing the problem.

I understand that Bravo is making a huge amount of money from the RHONJ and Teresa's antics are part of the reason as so many viewers will argue team Teresa or team Melissa, haters of Caroline and lovers of Jacqueline and so on. I know there are rumors of a possible spin-off for Teresa and so on. Just an observation Bravo, Jon and Kate plus 8 did not last long when it became Kate plus 8. Part of the reason RHONJ has increased in viewership is because of the crap Teresa pulls with everyone, a spin-off may not be the answer.

As to the increase in viewership and Teresa's roll in it, I believe many people watch to see Teresa fall from 'New Jersey Grace'. I know that I will be hard pressed to feel overly bad for Teresa. I mean the desperate actions of her last night makes me want to tell her to smarten up and quit the show. Forcing a man to have sex with you after he calls you those names and talks to a girlfriend in front of you and your family and friends/not friends calls to question your ability to face reality let alone be on a reality television show. I feel very sorry for you Teresa, save yourself from the path you are on, jump now and live a quiet life, with your girls, working a real job, within a real budget, and with those who can tolerate you and your children's horrible behavior.

Taking care of the written word,

dannielyn

John and Lisa T--Your last chance to stop your harrassment before legal action is taken against you

North Carolina

Last updated: September 4, 2011

S 14-196.3
Cyberstalking

1. The following definitions apply in this section:
   1. Electronic communication. - Any transfer of signs, signals, writing, images, sounds, data, or intelligence of any nature, transmitted in whole or in part by a wire, radio, computer, electromagnetic, photoelectric, or photo-optical system.
   2. Electronic mail. - The transmission of information or communication by the use of the Internet, a computer, a facsimile machine, a pager, a cellular telephone, a video recorder, or other electronic means sent to a person identified by a unique address or address number and received by that person.
2. It is unlawful for a person to:
   1. Use in electronic mail or electronic communication any words or language threatening to inflict bodily harm to any person or to that person's child, sibling, spouse, or dependent, or physical injury to the property of any person, or for the purpose of extorting money or other things of value from any person.
   2. Electronically mail or electronically communicate to another repeatedly, whether or not conversation ensues, for the purpose of abusing, annoying, threatening, terrifying, harassing, or embarrassing any person.
   3. Electronically mail or electronically communicate to another and to knowingly make any false statement concerning death, injury, illness, disfigurement, indecent conduct, or criminal conduct of the person electronically mailed or of any member of the person's family or household with the intent to abuse, annoy, threaten, terrify, harass, or embarrass.
   4. Knowingly permit an electronic communication device under the person's control to be used for any purpose prohibited by this section.
3. Any offense under this section committed by the use of electronic mail or electronic communication may be deemed to have been committed where the electronic mail or electronic communication was originally sent, originally received in this State, or first viewed by any person in this State.
4. Any person violating the provisions of this section shall be guilty of a Class 2 misdemeanor.
5. This section does not apply to any peaceable, nonviolent, or nonthreatening activity intended to express political views or to provide lawful information to others. This section shall not be construed to impair any constitutionally protected activity, including speech, protest, or assembly. (2000-125, s. 1; 2000-140, s. 91.)

To whatever name you go by:  John Taylor, Lisa Taylor, JT, ME (idareyoutopostmynameb.....net), You Know Who You B...., or anonymous (the name doesn't matter when the IP address shows they all come from the same source(s). 

You immediately cease your attacks on me via the internet or I will seek a protective order and a warrant for your arrest under the code listed above. I have had enough and I will no longer tolerate your harassing behavior and will seek any and all legal avenues available to me to force you to stop the cyberstalking and cyberharassment. This includes notifying the North Carolina Health Care Worker Registry with a complaint.

This is a fair warning. If you send another comment, post anything on the internet about me or attempt ANY contact with me or my family, I will go to the magistrate (open 24 hours seven days a week) and seek a warrant for arrest. I have already contacted them to find out what 'evidence' I need and I spent the day gathering and organizing it to present to the magistrate for the warrant of arrest and the district court judge for the protective order. I have the paper work already filled out and ready to hand in for the protective order. 

John as a health care worker, I would be concerned that the comments you made with identifying components as to your identity and to your wife's identity would put your job in jeopardy. The health care industry does not look kindly on their employees exhibiting uncontrolled anger, rage, and abusive behavior, especially when it is a criminal act. 

The only 'feud' that is happening is in your own mind. I am not nor have I been 'feuding' with you.  You have written horrific, angry, and vulgar slurs against me and my husband because my husband and I do not like you or your wife. Here is the sad truth, John, we didn't have to like you to live next to you. But, just so we are clear, it all started when you were standing in our yard, by our porch, in front of our windows numerous times. That is creepy behavior no matter how one tries to justify it. We chose to move from the situation that grew from your harassing and intimidating behavior. Since you are no longer physically able to use passive/aggressive measures to 'harass' us you have moved on to electronic harassment. It is time to come to a realization that your anger filled words written to me with the intent to abuse, annoy, threaten, terrify, harass, or embarrass is only going to harm you and your wife. 

When you are arrested and unable to work as a health care worker because of your cyberharrassment towards me, it will be you and your wife that ultimately suffers. You will not likely be eligible for unemployment if you are fired as a health care worker due to a criminal record for harassment. You will not be able to work in the health care field with this on your record. You stated you have been 'saving lives' for 15 years, what will you do when you can no longer work in this field?

We stated in the letter to you dated April 28 if the 'stuff' continued we would be moving out. The landlords were made aware of the letter by YOU. They were aware that we were not happy with what we were living through because of you since April 29th. 

We gave them a 30 day notice and told them that we would be out by the 15th of the month but had an opportunity to be out by the 7th of the month.  That gave them extra time to fix the issues that were in part the reason we moved out before a new person moved in. Instead, we find out the landlords were spending their time rather unproductively calling and speaking to people about the personal business matter between us and them. Just so the record is straight, we were not evicted. Even though we sent the letter in the mail on June1st, they did not go to their mailbox until June 6th. We spoke to them on the phone that day and in person that night. We moved the next day. They did not seek an eviction nor had any reason to seek an eviction. We followed the letter of the law of our lease they prepared for us. As to any claim that they did not have two months notice, they did. You gave them that when you gave them the letter dated April 28th. Did we stay for the full two months? No, we got out of that house the earliest we could.

Will your current landlord be happy to find out that the reason we moved out so quickly is due in part by the condition of the house and the majority of it was your 'creepy' and harassing behavior. Yes, they too will find out about your behavior towards us if you continue to send cyberharassment comments to me. I will be more than happy to not only send them to your landlord but post them publicly on my blog. Then every month they cannot rent the property they can 'blame' you for driving their last tenant out. 

What you are not privy too John, is the written and voice mail communications we have with the landlords regarding the truth of our 30 day notice of intent to move out. If you think your assumptions of fact based on their misrepresentation of the facts to a third party by our former landlord is valid for what you're slandering in your electronic communications, you are sadly mistaken. All that does is put the landlord at risk for poor publicity as landlords, community members, firefighter, and local business owners. So, I guess I was wrong in stating that you and your wife ultimately suffers. The landlords will suffer as well due to you forcing us to leave with your harassment, in addition to their lack of upkeep and no/poor response to leaking roofs causing mold to grow in several rooms of our house. The house was unbearable to live in because of you, your wife, and the lack of taking care of critical issues affecting our abilities to live in a house in which we payed rent.  

While this is more than I really wanted to share with you, I thought letting you in on a few facts might help control your need to spew slander that will hurt you and your landlords reputation. I gave you ample opportunity to stop and even warned you that you were harming you, your wife, and your landlord by continuing this cyberharassment. But the question that comes up all the time is how does Lisa feel about all the time you spent cyberstalking, cyberharassing, and obsessing about me? Shouldn't your wife be the only woman you spend that much time obsessing about? 

Taking care of the written word, 

dannielyn

What to do with extra garden bounty

I ran into a complete stranger last night at a local grocery store that was telling me of her problems with having too much abundance in her garden. The weather has been perfect and her veggies were coming in full force. She told me of a bunch of recipes she made with the veggies and is getting a little tired of some of them. It made me think of some of the local agencies that work with the poor, hungry, and homeless here in Henderson County. I volunteered at one that received a bunch of fresh veggies from local gardeners and the families who received the veggies really appreciated it. So, if you have extra veggies where ever you live, consider giving the extra bounty to your local food bank, homeless shelter, domestic violence shelter, or other agencies such as these. They will love your donation and you will give much needed nutrition to those most vulnerable. 

Settling In

Recently we moved and I have been busy working and working on settling in our new home. I have purchased some cute curtains, towels, rugs, and other items that make a house our home. Some call it nesting, a normal process when one looks at where one lives and considers how to make the home feel like their home rather than simply shelter. I found it interesting as I had not really done that in our last home. Was it a conscious or unconscious decision not to truly make the house a home? I did put up pictures and unpack boxes, but there was no feeling of 'ownership' of the space that we lived in. We simply resided in the home without a connection.

Our youngest son left two boxes packed for the 13.5 months we lived there. No matter how much he was teased by his brother about his unpacking he refused to unpack those last two boxes. When we made the decision to move from that house  his comment that it was good thing he never finished unpacking and how quickly the rest of his things could be packed was telling of his state of mind regarding living in the house.

This says a lot about the connection one has with the house one chooses to live in. One could ask if one chooses a home or if the home chooses us to live in. I ask and I find the answer confusing to say the least. I asked some ladies I know what they thought about this question and their answers were interesting to say the least. One friend told of a house they purchased that did NOT feel like a home no matter what they did to the house. Since they purchased the house they had to wait until they could sell the house. When they did sell the house they made sure the home they purchased 'felt' like home. Another friend told me that she loved the house they had lived in for 19 years and tried to find one that had their personality 'style' when they moved to   South Carolina. She would walk into a house and know immediately that it was not for her or her family and walk right back out. When she pulled up to the house she lives in now, she knew immediately it was her house. A third friend stated that their houses have personality, just not hers. She buys new furniture all the time but it just doesn't have the feel of their home no matter what 'personal' items she places inside. I can relate to each of their answers.

 As I look at the pictures I hung on the wall of our children from infancy to their current ages I am amazed at how much the heart influences the home. I see photographs of our oldest a few weeks from being three years old holding his four week old brother in front of a fireplace decorated for Christmas and remember some of the Christmas traditions we developed over the years no matter what 'home' we celebrated in, ours or our families. I see a picture of our youngest at three and our oldest at six wearing hockey gear waiting by our vehicles in our front yard ready for a new hockey season. I see artwork from both boys framed reminding me of the kitchen table   that was colored on and under from the time they held their first crayons. These are the memories that will make a house a home. Since moving in this home, we have begun to make many new memories. As the last box was unpacked this weekend and our home represents our personality, our family we feel settled in and content. And that is a great feeling.

Taking care of the written word,
Dannielyn

John Freida Frizz-Ease Sheer Solution Lightweight Frizz Control

I received this product from BzzAgent to try out and see if the product works as good as it claims. I tried it the very next day and it worked pretty good, but it was not really all that humid. I thought that I would have to wait to see if it really worked for a really humid day. However, I did notice that my hair which goes from wavy to curly depending on the humidity level was a more defined curl rather than a frizzy mess. I love this product for that reason alone. I am still waiting for a humid day to see if this works as good as it claims on humidity, but it has made my hair look and feel even better.

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn

Stronger by Kelly Clarkson (lyrics)

                                                   "What Doesn't Kill You (Stronger)"

You know the bed feels warmer
Sleeping here alone
You know I dream in color
And do the things I want

You think you got the best of me
Think you've had the last laugh
Bet you think that everything good is gone
Think you left me broken down
Think that I'd come running back
Baby you don't know me, cause you're dead wrong

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone
What doesn't kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger
Just me, myself and I
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

You heard that I was starting over with someone new
They told you I was moving on, over you

You didn't think that I'd come back
I'd come back swinging
You try to break me, but you see

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone
What doesn't kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger
Just me, myself and I
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

Thanks to you I got a new thing started
Thanks to you I'm not the broken-hearted
Thanks to you I'm finally thinking about me
You know in the end the day you left was just my beginning
In the end...

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone
What doesn't kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone

[2x]
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger
Just me, myself and I
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

(When I'm alone)

Taking Care of the Written Word

I do not think I ever explained why I use the phrase "Taking Care of the Written Word' as my tag line. I have been thinking about it quite a bit lately as I have seen a number of odd comments on many websites that I have read on a regular basis.

First, I use "taking care of the written word" because I am a freelance writer. That makes sense. I write therefore, I take care of the written word for my clients. I do all sorts of freelance writing jobs from website content, Facebook and Twitter postings, product reviews, ghost writing, and editing services to name just a few areas. I enjoy writing and the tag line seemed perfect for my business.

Secondly, I think that when we write something to anyone whether a note, card, tweet, status update, comment, or blog post we MUST be willing to accept responsibility for our words. I for one believe with my whole heart that what I write I accept responsibility for no matter what. Yes, there are times when I state my opinion and find opposition to that opinion, but I accept full responsibility for my opinion, right or wrong. I have apologized for my words if they have offended others but it does not change the opinion I expressed. I have admitted when I wrote something that was wrong, but I make every effort to make sure that what I write is correct as far as I can tell.

Third, as a part of 'taking care of the written word', I am careful about the comments that I allow on this site. I have marked as 'spam' certain ads that are added as comments to posts that have nothing to do with posting it is attached to because it is simply 'junk', 'spam', and waste of time. So if you have posted a comment like that to any of my posts, it has been marked as spam because it is not relevant to the posting. Now, if I posted something about a particular product or service and you have something related to that, I give you the opportunity to tag along on the posting. However, you post a spam comment about unrelated things and it is deleted immediately.

Along this same lines, if you leave a comment that is a mean spirited comment that has nothing to do with the post it is marked as 'spam' as well. I have little tolerance for angry, poorly written (in anger), and unrelated comments. As the owner of this blog, I have every right to delete, publish, mark as spam, or moderate the comments. I take full advantage of this right. I will not post your anger-filled, hate speech on my blog. Since May I have received a number of these types of comments from my 'former' neighbor. I am doing him quite a favor as I will not demonstrate to the internet audience how anger-filled, ignorant, mean-spirited and damaging his comments are to him and his wife. If I published his last comment, his identity would be out there for all to see. His name would be edited into the post I wrote yesterday for all the world to access. His name would be listed in the labels that allow people to search for him by name and see the post describing his behavior. In my posting yesterday, nothing of descriptive nature was given for him, our previous address, or the name of the landlords. However, if I post his comments which he dared me to do, I would be identifying him and his atrocious behavior. A bully is a bully is a bully and the behavior of the neighbor since he moved in is one of a classic bully. His behavior is passive-aggressive and intends to bully me with facts that are so far from the truth.

You see, last night I slept well. I enjoyed working in my house and outside the house. We enjoyed hanging out in our yard and we did not have to tolerate mold, smells, or our old neighbors. Last night I lived well and this morning, even addressing this issue, my blood pressure is at a normal level, my breathing normal, my stomach is NOT upset, no signs or symptoms of anxiety. When I feel it beginning to creep into my body or mind, I take a deep breath (I can because there is no mold, septic, or nasty carpet smells) and remember how much better our life is to be away from that house and that neighbor.

You may want to find a new manner of dealing with your anger dear neighbor. Your hate-filled comments are very telling of the problems you are struggling with and you may need to seek some help. Not everyone will be so tolerant of your behavior as my husband and I have been.

I take full responsibility for my words,

Taking care of the written word,
dannielyn