There are times when a normal event going on in your body suddenly alters and you are no longer in the normal range but things are slightly off. You don't realize it right away, it slowly sneaks up on your and then you realize that the changes have been occuring for a while, but you just figured that was normal. Then all of a sudden you realize that this sudden change that was slow for you to realize is possibly the sign of something more serious.
You simply begin to realize it could be more and then you put off investigating it. You may try to remember something about it, even write it down, but then you think it could be something serious or worse yet, you can make an appointment wiht your doctor to check on this only to be told that it is normal for someone your age and not to worry about it.
So you put it off for a bit more time. Then it becomes more noticable, annoying, in the way, inconvenient and so on. You decide to make an appointment. You go to the appointment only to realize that if you would have come in several months sooner it could have been taiken care of, no problem.
But here you are, still suffering with it and still inconvenienced by it and the process that is long and filled with hurry up and wait is still having you hurry up and wait. IT is something that is common in people your age, however, it doesn't need to continue for long lenghts of time.
This is much like our relationship with our God. We know there is something wrong, and instead of bringing it out in the open, it is kept hidden in your heart and it continues to cause you pain. It continues until you want ot scream out, "Just take it away God!" But God won't just take it away. Not until you bring it to God and hand it over, completely over to God. And like the medical process that often takes placed later in the process, it is a hurry up and wait. You have to hurry up and get rid of it for God to bring forth the resolution we hope for in our lives. We have to wait upon his time, we have to wait till he determines "it is time".
Even Jesus had to wait for God's plan unfold. He had no more control than we do in his situation. I am certain Jesus would have loved to say, "Ok God, I will die on the cross, but get it done quickly. The beatings, the walk with the cross on my shoulders is overrated. Just have them arrest me and then up I go on the cross. Quick as can be". But God's plans were different from our plans, they were different from Jesus's plans. Jesus said to God on the cross 'why have you forsaken me'. I am sure Jesus would have loved to pass on over the feeling of despair, guilt, sin, shame that our sins caused him. But without Jesus feeling what he felt, would the pure satisfaction of his becoming a risenSavior mean as much to us, to him, to his heavenly father.
Sometimes there is nothing better than having the truth. But the truth hurts. It hurts to know that we could have saved yourself months of pain, aggrevation and inconvenience if we would have just asked ourselves the right question about our medical issues. Just like we could have been saved years of pain if we would have asked what our real sin is we needed to repent of and ask for help for from God. If we would have been willing to share wiht God nothing but the truth.
Struggling to become a lady of Proverbs 31
Dannett
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Friday, May 29, 2009
A Child's Success, A Parents Pride
How much do we have to do with our child's success in life? I mean we teach them to do many different things, we teach them right from wrong, we teach them to read and we teach them to cook, clean and work with money. We teach them responsibility, accountability, and we teach them to be nice. But how much do we have to do with our child's success in life?
Our children have to find their own way in life but as we instruct them to be a certain way, do they follow that way?
I began their school careers telling them that they needed to set aside time to study each day and find a great learning environment in which to study. They currently don't have those study habits. They do have very good grades, are very intelligent, but their success isn't because I enforced the rules of when and where to study. Their success in school is because I set the groundwork and I let them (to some extent) feel the responsibility of their choices.
I know for certain that I can not take credit for their success, I can only say that I have tried to do all that I can do. It is ultimately up to them to take what was given to them and make something of their lives.
I feel comfortable with this as I know this is how things are suppose to be done. How? This is how God has done it with me. He has taken many different routes to share with me what I need to know and what I need to be doing. It is up to me to bring into fruition what God wants me to do, what I am suppose to do, or what needs to be done.
It is up to me to accept responsibility for what I do with the information and whether or not I am able to follow through with what God wants me to do. Have you? Have you accepted responsibility for what you do? Have you accepted responsibility for what we need to do with the information that God has given to us? If not, when?
Struggling to become a Lady of Proverbs 31
Dannett
Our children have to find their own way in life but as we instruct them to be a certain way, do they follow that way?
I began their school careers telling them that they needed to set aside time to study each day and find a great learning environment in which to study. They currently don't have those study habits. They do have very good grades, are very intelligent, but their success isn't because I enforced the rules of when and where to study. Their success in school is because I set the groundwork and I let them (to some extent) feel the responsibility of their choices.
I know for certain that I can not take credit for their success, I can only say that I have tried to do all that I can do. It is ultimately up to them to take what was given to them and make something of their lives.
I feel comfortable with this as I know this is how things are suppose to be done. How? This is how God has done it with me. He has taken many different routes to share with me what I need to know and what I need to be doing. It is up to me to bring into fruition what God wants me to do, what I am suppose to do, or what needs to be done.
It is up to me to accept responsibility for what I do with the information and whether or not I am able to follow through with what God wants me to do. Have you? Have you accepted responsibility for what you do? Have you accepted responsibility for what we need to do with the information that God has given to us? If not, when?
Struggling to become a Lady of Proverbs 31
Dannett
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
A Teenagers Mom
I have to admit that as a mother of a teenager, I have had to do less parenting than when they were younger and it is a lot easier to parent a teenager than it is a toddler or primary school age child. Yet, there are less problems and disciplining that I have to do.
I have to admit that I love my boys so very much. But I was strict with them; bedtimes, snack schedules, types of snacks, cleaning their rooms, learning to do chores, homework, manners, treating others with respect, and so much more.
My oldest son in Kindergarten would spend forever getting out of the school because he was always talking to others and being kind. While that was good that he was being kind to others, he held up the teachers and well, me and his brother and the children I cared for in my daycare. So, Tony, his teacher and I spoke one day and I told him that if he didn't start getting ready to leave school quickly he would lose privileges at home. I asked his teacher to remind him of the consequences. The teacher was willing to help as Tony was in AM kindergarten and she had lunch and preparing for the PM class to do before they arrived. Tony actually did very well with the setting of boundaries and found he had more fun when he got outside with the rest of his class and played before everyone left.
My youngest son had speech issues when he was younger and was due to some issues while in the womb. But anyways, Andrew was between two and three years old when this issue took place. We were at a restaurant and Andrew was being rude to the wait staff. Whether you have speech issues or not, being rude is not acceptable. He was taken to the bathroom with his father to "discuss" the issue. He came back and was told to apologize to the wait staff. He wouldn't. Another "discussion" took place. When he finally apologized for being rude, the wait staff was surprised. No other parent had ever made their child apologize for being rude.
We had the same "issue" take place two more times in two different restaurants. Same process took place, but after the third event of rudeness, Andrew was no longer rude to wait staff. Still isn't, he says please, thank you and will talk to them in many other ways than just giving orders.
My oldest son went to prom last weekend. He has a girlfriend that he was going with, but also five other girls that were in his group of friends. He drove our mini van and was a wonderful date, chauffeur and friend to all the girls in his group. I received a call from his girlfriend's mother telling me how charming and wonderful he was when he arrived. He opened the car door for her, was pleasant and gracious and wonderful.
I am a mother of two teenage boys. Both are doing wonderful in school, our youngest has gotten straight A's all year long, and I couldn't feel more blessed. I know it is due to God's direction in raising our children and because we were strict with love when they were younger.
As my oldest is about to become an adult in 8 months from now, I am looking at him not as much my son I need to parent but as my son who I am fortunate to become friends with more as time goes by.
Oh, there is a fine line between what kind of friend a parent and child can become, but I truly believe that there is much to look forward too.
I am enjoying being a mother of teenagers.
Struggling to become a lady of Proverbs 31!
Dannett
I have to admit that I love my boys so very much. But I was strict with them; bedtimes, snack schedules, types of snacks, cleaning their rooms, learning to do chores, homework, manners, treating others with respect, and so much more.
My oldest son in Kindergarten would spend forever getting out of the school because he was always talking to others and being kind. While that was good that he was being kind to others, he held up the teachers and well, me and his brother and the children I cared for in my daycare. So, Tony, his teacher and I spoke one day and I told him that if he didn't start getting ready to leave school quickly he would lose privileges at home. I asked his teacher to remind him of the consequences. The teacher was willing to help as Tony was in AM kindergarten and she had lunch and preparing for the PM class to do before they arrived. Tony actually did very well with the setting of boundaries and found he had more fun when he got outside with the rest of his class and played before everyone left.
My youngest son had speech issues when he was younger and was due to some issues while in the womb. But anyways, Andrew was between two and three years old when this issue took place. We were at a restaurant and Andrew was being rude to the wait staff. Whether you have speech issues or not, being rude is not acceptable. He was taken to the bathroom with his father to "discuss" the issue. He came back and was told to apologize to the wait staff. He wouldn't. Another "discussion" took place. When he finally apologized for being rude, the wait staff was surprised. No other parent had ever made their child apologize for being rude.
We had the same "issue" take place two more times in two different restaurants. Same process took place, but after the third event of rudeness, Andrew was no longer rude to wait staff. Still isn't, he says please, thank you and will talk to them in many other ways than just giving orders.
My oldest son went to prom last weekend. He has a girlfriend that he was going with, but also five other girls that were in his group of friends. He drove our mini van and was a wonderful date, chauffeur and friend to all the girls in his group. I received a call from his girlfriend's mother telling me how charming and wonderful he was when he arrived. He opened the car door for her, was pleasant and gracious and wonderful.
I am a mother of two teenage boys. Both are doing wonderful in school, our youngest has gotten straight A's all year long, and I couldn't feel more blessed. I know it is due to God's direction in raising our children and because we were strict with love when they were younger.
As my oldest is about to become an adult in 8 months from now, I am looking at him not as much my son I need to parent but as my son who I am fortunate to become friends with more as time goes by.
Oh, there is a fine line between what kind of friend a parent and child can become, but I truly believe that there is much to look forward too.
I am enjoying being a mother of teenagers.
Struggling to become a lady of Proverbs 31!
Dannett
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Blessings From Above
I haven't written in a while. I have been busy and while that isn't a great excuse, it is the best one that I can come up with right now.
Our family has been through some difficult times and most of them had to do with finances as most of the families here in America are experiencing. In the midst of what looked like the most difficult financial situation in a while, we were blessed.
I have been writing freelance for a while now and the money is there, just not coming in quickly enough for what we needed at the time we needed.
I can't go into many details about this as the situations we faced and the results and the...... well, it is just to embarrassing to go into all the details. I don't know if I can be tranparent enough with strangers that I can't see and have no physical relationship with at this time. It is hard enough to disclose details to those who we felt needed to know.
Thing is, no matter how transparent I wasn't planning on being with you, the truth is, God already knew all of the details. I couldn't hide these experiences, details, fears and mistakes from God during this time or any other time.
I can try to save myself from embarrassment by keeping details from you, but the end result is the same. The end result is that God knows the truth and even with the truth known, God has blessed our family more than we deserve.
I cried out to God to forgive me of my sins,
He simply said, this is how it all begins.
I asked him what he meant by those words said,
He answered, it was all planned ahead.
Confused and worried in my tears I asked, what did he mean?
He lovingly smiled looking at me and stated, the sin of man was foreseen.
My precious Son who I love so much,
Was to be the sinner's crutch.
He was to die and rise again,
So in heaven you would spend,
Eternity when you bring us in,
you heart to remove your deadly sin.
You are a child of mine, forgiven and so dearly loved,
By your Father up above.
Struggling to become a Lady of Proverbs 31
Dannett
Our family has been through some difficult times and most of them had to do with finances as most of the families here in America are experiencing. In the midst of what looked like the most difficult financial situation in a while, we were blessed.
I have been writing freelance for a while now and the money is there, just not coming in quickly enough for what we needed at the time we needed.
I can't go into many details about this as the situations we faced and the results and the...... well, it is just to embarrassing to go into all the details. I don't know if I can be tranparent enough with strangers that I can't see and have no physical relationship with at this time. It is hard enough to disclose details to those who we felt needed to know.
Thing is, no matter how transparent I wasn't planning on being with you, the truth is, God already knew all of the details. I couldn't hide these experiences, details, fears and mistakes from God during this time or any other time.
I can try to save myself from embarrassment by keeping details from you, but the end result is the same. The end result is that God knows the truth and even with the truth known, God has blessed our family more than we deserve.
I cried out to God to forgive me of my sins,
He simply said, this is how it all begins.
I asked him what he meant by those words said,
He answered, it was all planned ahead.
Confused and worried in my tears I asked, what did he mean?
He lovingly smiled looking at me and stated, the sin of man was foreseen.
My precious Son who I love so much,
Was to be the sinner's crutch.
He was to die and rise again,
So in heaven you would spend,
Eternity when you bring us in,
you heart to remove your deadly sin.
You are a child of mine, forgiven and so dearly loved,
By your Father up above.
Struggling to become a Lady of Proverbs 31
Dannett
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